5 Hurdles to Getting What You Want – How to Get Over Them

Hurdles in Life to Getting What You Want
Hurdles in Life Photo: Steven Aitchison

Every single thing we do in life has a set of hurdles which has to be jumped, climbed, walked around, blown up………you get the picture.  Even the simplest of things like making a cup of coffee or tea has a set of hurdles which has to be overcome.  In this article we will look at the five main hurdles and how to jump them to get what you want in life.

Hurdle 1 – Knowing what you want

This is possibly one of the biggest hurdles to jump.  Speak to anybody at all who is complaining about their job or situation in life and ask them what they really want to do in life and listen……listen to the silence!  A lot of people don’t know what they want to do with their lives so they just flounder about doing what they have fallen into.  You’ll hear lots of excuses, some of them will be quite convincing, but at the end of the day it’s an excuse.

Jumping hurdle 1

To jump the hurdle of not knowing what you want to do is quite easy.  Take time to sit and think about this question in your head.  The answers will be slow at first but they will start coming to you. It’s also a good idea to put questions to yourself and lay them on the back of that shelf in your mind until you are ready for the answer.  To do this, simply ask your question e.g. What type of job do I really want to have? And then you mentally sit the question on a shelf in your mind and the answers will start coming to you as you go about your day.  Periodically ask the question throughout the day.

Hurdle 2 – Making a quick plan

Whenever you do something, whether you know it or not, you will always make a quick plan in your head.  Even something as simple as making a cup of coffee,   once you have got past the first hurdle of knowing that you want a coffee you make a quick plan e.g. how long will it take, have you got the necessary ingredients, have you got enough milk, have you got time to drink it.  This all may sound laborious but you do it every time you do something.  Now, with the big things in life you should do the same thing only you are making a conscious plan and hopefully writing it down as the plan unfolds.

Jumping Hurdle 2

On an A4 sheet of paper or in your favourite notebook write at the top of the sheet, START and at the bottom of your sheet your goal.

In-between the two write down everything you think you will need to reach your goal.  Just brainstorm this and don’t take any more than 15 minutes.  This is a quick exercise and it should not be laboured over.  This will be the beginning of a blueprint for your success in life.

Hurdle 3 – Taking the first step

Once you have decided what you want to do then it’s time to take the first step.  This can be daunting but it will also be exhilarating.  This first step can be any step at all as long as it’s an action and it  moves you toward your goal.  This can also be tough for some people but it has to be done.

Jumping Hurdle 3

Do absolutely anything to get you going.  For example if you know that you want to get another job and you know what type of job it is then start looking around at colleges to get you the qualifications you need to get that job.  Send away for a home study pack to get you going, make a call to someone who can help you, do anything as long as it takes you toward your goal and keeps you thinking about it.

Hurdle 4 – Keep on moving

Once you have got going and taken your first step it’s important to keep going with your efforts.  It is much easy to change direction when you are moving so keep going and if you feel you are making a wrong turn you can change direction easily as you have momentum.

Jumping Hurdle 4

Use your plan from hurdle 2 and keep going with all the ideas you had to get to where you want to be.  I can’t stress enough about the importance of keep moving and keep your goal in mind at all times.

If you don’t think about your goal, your mind is not working on ways for you to get to your goal.  As a simple example, imagine you get a bill for your phone charges, you say to yourself I’ll pay that later when I’ve got time.  You put the bill in your letter area (mine is in the kitchen on the worktop).  You come home later and pick it up and put it to one side again, it’s in your mind and each time you look at it you get a little more stressed about.  Then comes the time when you have forgotten about it altogether until you get the red letter.  You berate yourself for not having paid if when you received it.  This is what it’s like when you have a goal.  If you don’t take action straight away the momentum disappears and it slips out of your mind.

Hurdle 5 – Enjoying your success

This might sound a little strange but a lot of people have a hard time to enjoy their success once they have reached a goal.  It’s important to recognise your achievements and share it with those close to you.

Jumping Hurdle 5

Treat yourself as soon as you have reached one of your goals.  You might think that reaching your goal is enough of a treat.  You are not celebrating the fact that you have reached your goal you are celebrating the effort you put in to reach your goal so go out and reward yourself for all the hard work, enjoy it, luxuriate in the thought that you created a thought to reach a goal and you reached it.

11 Responses to 5 Hurdles to Getting What You Want – How to Get Over Them

  1. I like this guide and you have a clear set of steps. As for hurdles though, an important point is to stay on track even if you knock one down. Similar to your keep going I guess but you need to be prepared for failure along the way and not let it stop you.

  2. With the right mindset all of these steps (hurdles) can be seen as part of what makes life interesting. Thing about it, they stimulate our creativity and challenge our problem solving abilities. Without something to jump over life could seem a little flat.

  3. I think that there’s yet another addition to enjoying your success – enjoy the small successes, and I would even celebrate the failures.

    Celebrate trying, celebrate the effort – every failure teaches us, and provides us with more information to eventually make our efforts successful.

    Great stuff as always Steve, you know I’m a huge fan!

  4. Great list, Steven, I enjoyed it. Especially number 5, I do like to indulge myself every once in a while and celebrate my success. It help the energies to be balanced again.

    Thanks for sharing 🙂

  5. I agree hurdle number one is very difficult to get over. Two ideas I’d like to add:

    1. Think/write down…what you don’t want. That can help you decide what you do want.

    2. When you have decided what you do want…fast forward 6 months, 1 year and look back to see what has happened. Happy? If you are you know you are possibly on the right track.

    Andrew

  6. Nice article. You have covered the topic in a very nice manner with examples from our day to day lives. Keep up the good work.

  7. I like the idea that we can use hurdles to help us grow and develop. A great action plan that nearly anyone can follow.

  8. Hi everyone

    Thanks for all the comments about this article. There is some great additions we could add to this post based on everything you have all said, I think it might be worth re-visiting this one 🙂

    Thanks Arohan for giving me the opportunity to write this on your blog. Hopefully can contribute some more in the near future.

    Steve

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